"When I tell you something is dangerous, I mean it. And, I never forget the Victims"
T.J. Hooker
"Everyone can master a Grief but he who has it”
William Shakespeare
”I had given him a life not worth living, but I had also given him an iron will to live. This was a common combination on the planet Earth”
Kurt Vonnegut about his character, Kilgore Trout.

Sunday, January 22, 2017

Sunday Stealing: Breaking the Ice...

The Icebreaker Questions

Welcome back to Sunday Stealing which originated on WTIT: The Blog authored by Bud Weiser. 

We believe she's the author but...
It is hard to say where we got these questions. They are from a martial arts site and we think are meant for questions to ask your opponents when you meet. We “think” because most of the site is in French. Also, you’d never ask any of the original questions to someone that you just met. Those questions (i.e. What celebrity would you like a threesome with?) were not what we’d ask someone when we met. But there were 50 questions that we both stole and edited to become today’s massive event. We got the title from the original site. Oh, and feel free to answer the threesome question. And leave the question out for others to read. They will never look at you quite the same way ever again.

Cheers to all us Thieves!


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1. Are you loud, outgoing or shy?
At "familia" gatherings, I'm shy and quiet.  I've learned some hard lessons.  I don't need the grief.  With friends and some relatives, though, I'm confortable enough to be warm, vivacious and animated. 

2. What’s coming up where you’ll see an old friend?
Darlin', most of my friends are dead and buried, sadly. And my #1. BFF is on the other side of the Earth. I'm a little worried about her because of where she lives.
Online friends are also very sweet to have.  I'd like to trek to Missouri to see my other BFF#2 , who is always so much fun to be around!

3. Are you easy to get along with?
I think so, as I love to laugh and also really love people, even having just met them.  Like most Mother Hen types, if you hurt my kids, you are banned from my Realm.  Queen Hen's Rule!

4. Have you ever given up on someone, but then gone back to them?
Yes.  Psycho Dad.  Forgave it all, and then he did something unforgivable.  God will work this out.  It's beyond my abilities.   

5. Who was the last person that you had a deep conversation with?
My neighbor and long time friend.

6. Are you okay with being in a big crowd?
Yes, unless there's a lot of anger around.  Then I want to leave, as I'm prone to throwing bricks.

7. Do you believe in luck and/or miracles?
Used to.

8. What good thing happened during the summer? (It’s good to think about summer when you are freezing your butt off in January.)
We all seem to have had a draconian summer/year.  I was glad to see the backside of 2016. 

9. Do you think there is life on other planets?
Yes, and I also believe that there are parallel universes.  As in "the kingdom of Heaven is all around you but you perceive it not".

10. Who was your first crush on?  
Richie Valens was my first Dream Boat.

11. What are your bad habits?
I'm a messy Arts and Crafter who tends to save just about any sort of paper/wood/ dried plant/stick/thread/bead or bug "for future use"  I've got a dragon fly that was stuck in the grill of the Jeep that I want to "immortalize".

12. What’s your favorite part of your daily routine?
Getting up, finding beauty in something, and drinking tea, watching Netfix,laughing with DH- All good.  I like that we are retired and, essentially, as free as the birds.

13. Other than your significant other, who are you most comfortable with?
I'm most relaxed around my daughters, my Lil Sis, and Bro, my nieces, and my younger SIL.  
 
14. Has an ex ever told you that they regret breaking up?
Oddly in this fast paced world, I only have had one suitor.  He hasn't left me despite my sometimes emotional reactions to animal cruelty, yadda yadda yadda.

15. Why should your celebrity crush drop everything to be with you?
Um, I have not idea.  I don't like, and never have, "Celebrity".  And to not put too fine a point on this, look where Celebrity worshiping has got us as a nation - 20 second attention spans and Bread and Circuses.

16. What would be the hardest to give up and why? Books. TV. Music.
Music, and that's because Music informs my chaotic brain, and it makes it orderly and gave me long range thinking. 

17. Do you believe in second chances?
Yes, I very much do believe in it.  Many people have completely turned their lives around after being given a second chance.

18. What would like to do next in your life?
Edit here: I really misread this question.  I'm so focused on the NEXT life that I thought this said, ..."in your next life."  Duh!
I want to play the Piano, Irish tin whistle, Concertina and the Guitar; I want to also be a Master Gardener, have and adopt children, and have a PhD in History.

I will let this stand but add:  In this life I'm just living it and trying to look for beauty everywhere.

19. What’s the meanest thing that anyone has ever said to you?
My MIL asked me did I want "a bunch of little "pikininis" running around" at my feet?  I was shocked into silence.  This was in a genteel conversation gone bad.  It was about who I would accept as a marriage partner for any of my daughters.  The question was about something in the news.  What I said was that I didn't worry what color the man was that married my daughters, just as long as they provided for, and loved and cherished my girl, and the children.

Two female family members, in laws, climbed right up into my grill about it.  One even ran off to shout at my husband.  All this occurred while we were all three washing and drying dishes in the kitchen. I'm now even more sensitive about Bigotry and Racism. Now you all can see how my hackles where raised about Bigotry running rampant.  It is abhorrent to say the least!


C/o an Amnesty International mailing.



And now for that song about In Laws....


20. What’s the nicest thing that anyone has ever said to you?
That I had a natural kind of beauty.  I've never forgotten it because I never thought I was, in any way, considered beautiful.  

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Peace & love-
Bud

15 comments:

  1. I haven't heard that term to describe African American babies in decades, but I remember my parents had a friend who said she didn't want children unless she could have "that term." For some reason I have always remembered it, though I was quite young when I heard it.

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    1. Well, I love the little dolls, and never got one. But it is such a derogatory term that to hear it come out of an Irish/Italian woman was beyond belief! My mother was packed off to aunts in California because she wanted to marry an Italian! I hope the next generation is different. Judging by the desperate measures that have been taken to insure a Bigot got into the White House, I wonder? Ya know?

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  2. Loved your answer about your favorite part of your daily routine. It made me think of mornings with my grandmother. We'd get up early, make our tea, and head out onto the porch to watch nature wake up (Nana lived across the road from a swamp that was a National Wildlife Refuge). Conversation always seemed to flow at that time and she taught me quite a bit about her flowers and the animals/birds/insects we'd see. When it was too cold for the porch we'd sit at her dining room table and watch the zillions of birds coming to the feeder she'd put up just outside the window.

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    1. We were both so lucky in our grandmothers. My mom also went on "nature walks" with our kids, and they learned some gentle, unassuming ways from her.
      My grandmother taught me to sew when I was five, but not before I'd had sewn my fingers through. lol You see, I was not supposed to TOUCH that sewing machine. Teaching me was the only road forward in that.

      One physical thing I remember about my grandma was that she was tiny, Very tiny, and she had the biggest and most crystalline blue eyes, which Mother shared. My niece got those lovely eyes, too.

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    2. Such lovely memories. I think I am looking forward to seeing Nana again in the afterlife more than anyone else. I miss her every day.

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  3. Naturally, I had to google "pikininis" as a girl from the north who grew up in a well-integrated liberal-minded area. MIL say the darndest things- except for when we become MILs. I enjoyed your ambitious ramble. I may join you for that PhD thing lol. When I'm done paying for my own child in grad school...

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    1. You were lucky in your early life. And thanks, I loved rambling. It's one of the most pleasant things for old ladies, to share stories!
      About PhD's: I so very much misread that question. duh. I don't want another life but want to go home, FREE!
      Isn't it lovely to be able to help the next gen? I'd like to put my daughter through grad school. She needs but to ask.

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  4. Loved #12!
    #19 WOW. An old boss used that perjorative in front of me once.

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    1. Thank you, about 12. I hope everyone can have a "Golden Pond" sort of retirement, where love glows rather than fades.

      And, I love the little dolls, but I can't even imagine saying something like that to another person about real people! I can't even call the dolls by that insulting word.

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  5. Love your answer to second chances. Everyone should get a second and sometimes third chance. The 4th time you are out.

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    1. I believe very much in second chances, and maybe third ones, but four strikes you're likely dead to me. haha

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  6. I tend to get burned on second chances, but I give them anyway because that's the kind of person I am. I keep thinking someday I will learn, but maybe not. I enjoyed your answers, and I hadn't heard that pejorative in ages, either!

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    1. Having a kind heart does leave you vulnerable, but you couldn't truly live without being such.
      Our childhoods leave us with big issues sometimes. Then that separation comes between what someone made us into, and what we know in our hearts we really are, and it's like the sun coming up for the first time in our lives.
      That is a word I've heard once in my adult life, and,truth be told, never want to hear again. In fact, I'll slap someone if they ever say it in my hearing. Maybe I'll "cane" them. lol

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  7. I hope one day we can have a blogger get together--I'd love to meet up with you! You always have interesting and thoughtful answers.

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    1. Thank you, Kwizgiver. I so want to do this meet-up!
      Having been a "brooder" all my life, and seemly having an eidetic memory, I'm stuck with "issues" for life apparently. I talk to relieve the pressure in this fat head. I have to be careful what I watch on Netflix. Being 74 and living through all these damnable WARS has made me pretty vocal because of all the war zone junk in my head.

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